We are born to love and be loved, sometimes we just forget to do it. Things may happen in our lives which make us a bit out of touch with love and then we end up in relationships and friendships which are not as fulfilling as we deserve. This includes the relationship with ourselves.
However, the good news is we can just as easily re-learn to love ourselves again. We do need to do this so we can love another in the best way possible and share our love with the rest of the world. It may take a bit of practice but I feel it is the most natural and true way to live so once we get back to this place, everything slots into place as it should.
Here are some ways to increase the capacity to love yourself:
1. quit comparing
No one is perfect, we never will be and it would be boring if we were. People can appear perfect when we see their lives on social media and the best bits but this isn't reality. When we stop comparing, trying to be perfect and decide to just be the best version of ourselves miracles happen.
2. create a Nice Evening Routine
Have a nice tea, get good sleep and start to take really good care of yourself all throughout the day but especially in the evening so you get a good nights sleep. Little snippets of self care and love all add up to create a life which you love and a person you love.
3. Remember we were born to love
Try and remember that we were born loving ourselves so this is how we are actually meant to be - anything else we just learnt so we can also choose to drop. Try and remember if there was anything that happened that caused you to go off track, then decide to make the swap to re-loving yourself again.
4. Do what makes you happy
Everyone is too busy thinking about themselves to really even care about what you are doing, so you may as well just let go and do what makes you happy anyway. There is no right or wrong so dance how you want, let go and have some fun!
5. give yourself permission to love yourself
Know that this is an amazing thing to do! Decide to make it an important priority every single day as when you are your best self, you will shine and make the other people around you feel so much better and happier too! It is the most selfless thing you can do and the most important thing also.
6. choose love throughout the day
Throughout the day with all of your tasks, as yourself questions like is this loving? Would I do this if I loved myself? Is this coming from a place of love? If you notice you're not choosing love, make a quick simple pivot and choose it instead.
7. develop good boundaries
Develop healthy boundaries so you are the one deciding which direction you are going in - that way you can point it in the direction that lights you up. If you are constantly saying yes to things you don't want to do, it isn't putting yourself first or being loving to yourself so boundaries really help.
8. see the beauty in other people
How we see others reflects how we see ourselves so swap to see the beauty in others, regardless of how we act and we will start to see the beauty in ourselves more.
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